Why is there a set way in which a woman is supposed to look? Why is thin the new in? Why is it that curvy women are pushed behind in the race for beauty? Why is it that some women however thin they are still want to be thinner? Since when did having a flat stomach become more important than having good health? Since when did having the most chiseled jaw line and well defined cheek bone, come with a dash of fatigue and tiredness, from starving yourself to lose that one pound.
Who said all this hogwash is worth it, and for whom? These questions have taken away sleep, good health and peace of mind of many a woman in this world. It’s not fair that a woman must go through all this trauma, and emotional upheaval…So tonight before another woman cries herself to sleep, all insecure and feeling unaccepted, for the family whom she has given her life for, we need to stop here. Think once more, what the hell is going on?
I am not against the idea of having good health. I agree we need to respect the body we have and take utmost care of it. It is a temple, in which the divine resides, we would ensure we keep the place of worship clean and clear. When you push yourself away from that one indulgence, check your conscience, why are you doing it? Is it to maintain your health, is it to lose that one pound, which you feel is extra, but the body needs it?
Listen to your body sometimes, not only to your mind, not only to the society which has a set pattern in which it wants things to function. The society has a pre-set notion of how a woman is supposed to look, anything you do apart from that, eyebrows will be raised.
Let me ask you something, you know how it feels, when someone goes to the gym and loses weight and then they come home to get complimented on how beautiful their weight loss has made them, it’s not nice you know. It just shows the person how much acceptance was missing until this moment. And you just sit and wonder, oh! So this is what you wanted. Why? Because the society has set this schema, that thin is beautiful? Who said so? And even if people say so, why do you agree? Think, reflect, have an opinion of your own…
Going to the gym, doing yoga, maintaining a good lifestyle, nobody said no to any of this. It is good to ditch the junk food, there is nothing wrong in being healthy, living healthy, but most importantly we need to start thinking healthy as well.
Health is more to do with the mind than the body. Whilst you focus on this, rest assured that it is going to take a long time before anyone changes, nobody will change, and body shaming has always been an issue, it’s not going anywhere.
Whatever you do people will never be satisfied, so stop doing things to satisfy others. If you feel you want to present yourself in a certain way, sit and reflect, think of the intention behind the desire. If you intellectually think it is right, and the voice from your heart says yes, do it. But never do anything to just go according to the norm society has set. Society is just a group of people saying a few things, soon the group of people will also change and the society will also change… SO take care of yourself…
Beauty is not only skin deep, it can be deeper, if only you cared to look beyond the face… Look into the eyes, you will meet the individual, listen into the voice and you will feel the person, touch the person’s heart and you will merge with the individual… Believe in humanity, believe in love and believe in acceptance….
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